Saturday, July 24, 2010
Best Possible Spin
"What is the best possible spin on the facts in your face?"
That's a paraphrase of a portion of the love chapter (1 Corinthians 13:5).
5(Charity) Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
We have all heard ourselves or friends saying things like the following:
"I think he has it in for me."
"Was she trying to ridicule me with that remark?"
"I think he misunderstood completely what I was trying to say."
"Seems as if my input was ignored completely."
In this world of push and shove it is apparent that we try too hard to get inside other people's heads. We are concerned about our appearance, our influence, our due respect.
We remind ourselves that we have been told to be "wise as serpents and harmless as doves." But with little effort the serpent aspect takes over and we are fostering all kinds of suspicious and un-Christian thoughts. We call it "discernment" when in fact it is much more like common nastiness, posturing and slander.
Down the road, in most of these situations, we will discover that there were facts unknown to us which explained away most of the difficulty. The worry and the adrenaline were wasted. It would have been wiser to "put the best possible spin on the facts in your face." To regard the other person's situation or intent charitably, sympathetically. "Love never fails."
The struggle, after all, is motivated by that dark horse called pride. He whispers in one's ear, "You shouldn't have to put up with this. You deserve better. Don't let him get the upper hand. The nerve of him, after all!"